off balance, and it's working beautifully. Cheating, deflecting anger, then getting cozy in the bedroom. If he keeps you guessing then he keeps you under his control. I would have cut bait when he cheated. He's a manipulator..that's his character and one does not change their character unless they REALLY want to and with a lot of therapy. So far his only redeeming quality is that he's good in bed. That's just not enough for a relationship.